As some of you might already have guessed, I’m a fan of Japanese girl idols. One of the many, many idol groups in existence today in Japan is NMB48, a Osaka-based spin-off group of the (in)famous AKB48. NMB has a weekly show that’s…
yo if any of you guys have a habit of saving images willy-nilly you should really take a minute to make sure the pics don’t have a fishy file size. people are falling for some seeder images lately, the most popular one plants a screamer virus on your computer. it hides it in your…
Every gay has a complex. Maybe they show it maybe they don’t but growing up gay really fucks you mentally. The constant fear of being bullied or not being accepted or even the self loathing because the fact you are gay and can’t change. All those things come with a huge…
“I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?””—
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
Anonymous asked: At one point in my story a character of color is assaulted and nearly dies. He is saved, however, by a white character. How can I write this without treading into White Savior territory?
The first step is knowing that you can easily fall into writing the…
How does a writer mention a prophecy that says the characters are destined to do something, while still giving the characters agency?
I did this post on prophecy, which will give you a few suggestions. Other than that,
Make the prophecy vague. The characters will struggle to interpret it. Sometimes they will fail and things they thought would lead to the fulfilling of a line of prophecy fall flat on their face, only for the prophecy to be fulfilled in a different way.
Make them interact with the prophecy. A lot of characters in prophecy-ridden stories either don’t talk about the prophecy at all or throw their hands up and say, “No matter what, the prophecy will happen”. Let the characters debate about what each line of the prophecy means. Let them have different ideas on what it means and let those ideas shift over time.
Give them the end game, not the means. The prophecy says the heroes will sail across the ocean. The prophecy doesn’t say how to make plans, what weather they’ll encounter along the way, or what to do when the ship’s boarded by pirates. The characters need to figure that out themselves.
Anyone can die. Basically, don’t promise anyone will live. Most prophecies center on one person, which the reader will expect not to die - until you kill them off and reveal the prophecy actually pertains to a different character. Or when the prophecy doesn’t guarantee their survival. Most side characters aren’t accounted for and they shouldn’t be. The characters will be busy making sure they survive the prophecy and express agency that way.
Don’t give them the end. I prefer prophecies that say something like, “The hero will be this person and they will sail across the sea, visit the Shrine of Kapuka, and run wild with the camels of Naggroth. These experiences will give them the answer to defeating X.” The hero and their friends do all these things and spend days/weeks/months trying to figure out how doing these things gives them the answer to destroying X because the prophecy doesn’t tell that what it is.
Side plots. Not everything in the story will be in the prophecy (or, it shouldn’t be). The prophecy didn’t predict the traitor, the uprising of the Northern Marches, the prophecy’s OTP not being compatible, the deaths of trusted friends, or the hero’s blindness. The characters need to solve these while dealing with the prophesied problem.
me at home:i've been wearing the same jeans and band shirt for the last three weeks but it still smells alright so i'll keep wearing it
me going away:I NEED ONE SHIRT FOR EACH DAY AND EXTRA IN CASE IT GETS DIRTY AND THE SAME AMOUNT OF JEANS AND SOCKS ACTUALLY NO I'LL NEED EXTRA SOCKS IN CASE IT FLOODS AND DOUBLE THE UNDERWEAR IN CASE OF DISASTER AND ONE NICE OUTFIT IN CASE I GET INVITED TO TEA WITH THE QUEEN
if you have the bandwidth, the hard drive space, etc: download the videos, save the photos, screencap the tweets about ferguson. there is media disappearing from twitter and facebook and reposting media may be the only way these things continue circulating.